So yesterday was Will and my 9-month anniversary (yay!). I know that's not exactly a celebrated number, but I figure when you're under a year you can still get excited about the three-month marks. We didn't do anything special to celebrate, but we did make sure to note the day's significance to each other. It's kind of crazy to think that we'll be coming up on a year already soon. Before we got married everyone told us that the first year would be the hardest, and let's just say that if that's true we're going to have the best marriage ever ahead of us! Sure, we have our tiffs and are learning to living with each other's messes (literally and figuratively), but so far it's been pretty smooth sailing. True, we haven't hit any major trials yet since we've been married, but it got me thinking about what other factors have been contributing to our marriage in its brief existence so far to make it succeed. And you know what one of the biggest things that comes to mind is?
We talk.
Sounds pretty simple, but we do. And about everything. About our jobs, about our thoughts, about our days. And we don't just ask the other person about their day as we stare at the TV (or we try not to most of the time at least). We really ask and we really listen. We talk about God, our relationships with Him, our doubts and hopes. We talk about our marriage - how our relationship is doing, our needs, our expectations. We talk about the fun things, the sad things, and even the things that have hurt us. We talk. We listen.
Back during our premarital counseling we were told that true physical intimacy could only exist when true emotional intimacy happened first. At first I thought that was way over the top, but it's true. It's not just about that though - it's about becoming one with your spouse in all areas of your life. Seeing this "one-ness" develop has been subtle and exhilarating, and I know we're just getting started.
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